Malibu Muffins

1 stick unsalted butter, soft
¾ cup sugar
2 eggs
½ cup canned coconut milk
¼ cup Malibu Rum
1 cup coconut flakes
1 ¼ cups plain flour
1 ½ tsp baking powder
1 tsp baking soda
¾ cup canned pineapple cubes

Combine butter and sugar into a large bowl and mix with a wooden spoon or spatula.
Mix in eggs, one at a time, followed by the coconut milk and Malibu Rum.
Finally add the coconut flakes, flour, baking powder, baking soda and pineapple cubes – ensure that the mixture is well incorporated.
Pour into lined muffin tins and sprinkle with some extra coconut flakes.
Bake at 375F for 25 minutes (until the tops of the muffins are browned).
Cool on a wire rack.

I love the Oatmeal

For so many reasons, but on this day of family sucks, were is more booze I love his take on Thanksgiving

A bit about me

I love Sexplanations.  Dr Doe has gotten me to think about my sexuality from multiple points of view.

I will now have a quick discussion on my attractions.  I call myself pansexual, because I find so very many different sexualities attractive, but that really does not describe me well, like at all.  I have joked that I am Pansexual and Asexual, and while that is closer to were I am it just confuses.  I am attracted to different things it different ways, and with different leanings.

Intellectually
Intellectually I am Pansexual.  A persons biology and social gender definitions do not play a role in whether I am intellectually attracted to them.  Boobs and vag have nothing to do with the brain, neither does circumcision or intact.

Emotionally
Emotionally I lean straight.  I am mostly attracted to metrosexual men, and, well, gay men.  I know, I know, gay men will never find my sexually attractive, but I do not care, I am not wanting to fuck them, I just emotionally find them a really great fit for me.

I do not find women emotionally attractive, dyke, butch, femme, none of these are commonly good fits for me.  That is not to say that there is not some woman who is a perfect fit for me emotionally, I am sure there is, likely a good number of them.  I have only met one, and so I say lean straight, at least in this one respect.

Physically
I am totally Pansexual here, well, Captain Jack type of Pan.  I find all different things physically attractive.  Boobs are awesome, I love boobs.  Penises look, well, icky, as do vaginae.  Amusingly enough I think foreskin and large labias are hot, I cannot explain it, I just do.

Sexually
And now it is time for the Asexual part.  It is only a part of attraction, but it is the part most people connect with, sex.  I am not against sex, I just am not interested in it, at all.  If I were dealing with someone that wanted to have sex with me, and I felt I was getting something I wanted from the deal, I would not say no, but as I have not found someone who does not want the sexual to be in the forefront of a relationship, and am not interested in a friend with benefits relationship ...

That is not to say I do not find pleasure in orgasms, I do, I just do not feel the slight bit interested in forming a relationship around it, or, well, having physical intimacy with anyone.  The only way I do things with others involves mutual masturbation.

I find anything sexual with someone else to be about bringing enjoyment to the other person, and not sex.  I am, at this point, rather confused that so many people need sex to get enjoyment, and that just causes issues for even starting a relationship ...

Conclusion
I am me.  Words are good for both clarification, and confusion.

I love Sexplanations, and am so glad that watching has gotten me to feel less weird about my weirdness.  Sexplanations on Subbable, if I had any actual money I would totally give money, doing my part to help myself, and others, always a good thing.

Officially joining St Marks Episcopal in Seattle in a few hours

I get to try and explain how I am not Catholic or Protestant, but both Catholic and Protestant for the rest of my life

I could not be happier

Mizpah

The deep emotional bond between people, especially those separated by distance or death

I went to see a friends band last week.  All the groups playing were great, but every single band had some point during their set that multiple people were messing with their phone, not taking pictures/videos, but posting on FB, or messaging people.  I wanted to punch people.  If you want to be online stay home, if you want to be out with people, put down the damned phone.

I have been away from my computer

Apparently that caused a panic for some of you.  Got 15 emails from people I have never met, worried about me.  It was nice to see people cared.

Been fine, just not online.

Sophrosyne

A healthy state of mind, characterized by self-control, moderation, and a deep awareness of one's true self, and resulting in true happiness

Time for another personal post

I have never hidden my sexuality, and other ... entertainment from anyone except my parents, so me posting more now should really not be a surprise.

I have started getting more social recently, sometimes in sexually open places, but still have not had sex again.  I did however cuddle, well fail at cuddling, at a sex club.

Smoking cigarettes is bad, smoking pot, not so much.  Being a complete pot head is bad.  I went from the extreme of pot head to not touching it at all.  Now I am back, but the high CBD type for pain, and a pinch of THC when being sociable.

I had stopped masturbating as much, feeling I had gotten to the point where I needed it multiple times a day. Some good things had happened, ok, not really, I no longer feel the need to masturbate, but otherwise I had not noticed anything.  Then last night happened.  I entertained myself, I slept amazingly well, my pains have lessened.

My first try of alcohol was a sip of something my mom was drinking.  My first buzz was when my and my dads Hot chocolates got confused.  My enjoyment for booze has never gone away, even when I did stupid things like drinking around people that are not are safe, or this past New Years Eve when I drank heavily on an empty stomach.  I did however learn some important rules for myself and alcohol intake.

I had become obsessed with quite a few things.  None of them were bad, in moderation, but I was doing them more than is healthy.  Addiction runs in my family, I have kept myself from any real addiction (other than cigarettes) because of the fear of being an addict, more recently seeing my sister (full blown pill addict), and my niece (who has been clean for a little more than a year).

Life is a balancing act
Sometimes I forget that
Sometimes I just fail at it
But I get up the next morning ready to try again

Silence is better than lies

When the axe came into the woods, many of the trees said "At least the handle is one of us"