Listening with the imagination ~ George MacDonald

Comparing traditional views of mankind with Celtic view mankind. Does man have the essence of God within them did they lose it at the fall.

I have always felt that all of creation had God in it. It was hard for me to view humanity as having the essence of God in them, however in the rest of creation I could see the essence of God shines through.

Every good and loving action a human commits is inspired by love, believing God is love requires the belief that there is the essence of God in humans. While I view the rest of creation as more beautiful than humanity I must believe that humanity also has God in it.



McDonald opened the door for such beliefs to come back into Celtic life.

Listening for God in all things ~ Carmina Gadelica

This chapter is just full of notes, little tabs, beautiful prayers that fill this chapter, the spiritual and physical, the trinity.



God in 3, the trinity, the physical in 3.



The importance to the people, to the culture, Celtic Christianity, even without the home of the church it survived.

The beauty and Holiness of creation.

Listening within creation ~ Eriugena

Celtic Church different from the western church.  Marriage was allowed with priests , women were able to learn of the Bible.  This seems to be largely because of how the Celtic Church grew itself from Celtic mythology combined with Catholicism.  Some of this also came from the Eastern Orthodoxy.



Combining the Celtic mythology with Catholicism means interesting things like keeping the goddess Brigid but changing her form.



This chapter covered the combination of religions, the history Celtic Christianity.  The choice between Catholicism and the Catholic Church.  It seems almost sad the Celtic Church was almost forgotten by the choice of Catholicism.



The prayers in this chapter was so beautiful, the Beauty and the simplicity pull at my heart.

Full

Home

I grew up in a Christian home. My mom was raised Pentecostal, my father a Lutheran. My brother and I were raised Presbyterian. I loved the church I grew up in. Classes were very organized, services were beautiful (though I would usually draw during them), the camps that they had were amazing. University Presbyterian did a very good job of walking the line between entertaining and educating.

My love of my childhood church would not last.

When I was still a child I received a care package from one of my God Mothers, in it were a few items she thought a Christian girl should have. The most important item Admiral Hazard sent me was a prayer, a prayer to Jesus decorated with the Heart of Christ. This prayer has followed me my life, I am looking at it as I type this. It usually hangs above my bed, I do not prayer it daily, it does however remind me to prayer as I get into bed each night. This care package made me realize their was more to Christianity than how I was raised, it was because of this package that I first felt I should join a religious order.

My love of the prayer has never decreased, only increased.

There was a children's program I saw while I had pertussis, it had a live action of Our Lady of Guadalupe. I fell in love with her that day. I knew I was not a Catholic, I was a Presbyterian, however I knew that she would be important to me my whole life.

My love of Our Lady was odd for a Presbyterian, and that has lasted through everything.

Evolution

The evolution of my faith was not a slow or gradual one.  I was on one track, and was forced off it by the church I grew up in.

I had been wild in my youth, I never left the church, I was just wild and a troublemaker.  But was a leader and teacher, on my way to living a life as leader in a church.

Then I was raped.  I told my boyfriend, who told the leaders of the college program, who told the leaders of the children's programs.  Victim blaming broke me.  I lost many friends, I lost my plan in life, I lost my goal, I lost my boyfriend, I lost school, I even lost faith in humanity, but never lost my faith in God.

I was too broken to keep going as I had been.

One friend helped me make new friends, I quickly rebuilt some aspects of me, but what I saw as who I would be was not to be regained.

I left churches for awhile, when I went back it was to Lutheran churches, then an African Methodist Episcopal, then I game to where I belong.

Influences

I grew up Presbyterian

My mom was raised Pentecostal

My dad was raised Lutheran

My God Mother, Roberta Hazard, was Catholic

I touched a toe in each

When I was in high school I visited a Lutheran church, loved the service and its weekly communion

When I was treated poorly by my childhood church I spent most of my time at Lutheran services

As an adult a dear friend invited me to go to Saint Mark's Cathedral, it was the feast of the Pentecost. By the end of the service I knew I was home.

Checklist

In this process to write a spiritual autobiography I have looked at questions to help me organize thoughts.  I found a Spiritual Formation Assessment that gave a checklist, I went over the list, and as it suggested it might I learned something about myself, and show me where I could improve.  I certainly saw where I could improve, while I checked the boxes I saw myself not answering the question but describing my answer.

Here goes

• I practice some form of personal prayer
• Every morning, as part of a routine
• I pray with other Christians
• I rarely spend time in prayer with others outside of services
• I read my Bible devotionally
• As part of my morning routine (BCP)
• I read spiritual writings
• While busing.  If I am busing I am probably reading.  When I bus is currently random, I am hoping that getting a normal job will increase my reading times.
• I study the Scriptures
• As part of my morning routine (BCP) 
• I spend time by myself in quiet solitude or silence
• I spend a short time as part of my daily routine, I am trying to add more silence and music to my life.
• I fast or engage in other deliberate acts to simplify my life from over-dependence on material things]
• I cut something for a short time every week, but I could do more I just am not taking that step
• I keep a personal journal of my thoughts, feelings, and prayers
• I make notes, they are random and not all in one place.  I am hoping this space will once again be where I post such things, and I hope other will keep me accountable
• I contribute from my financial resources through
• Tithing and offerings as I can, when I can.  Money is so tight I commonly go to a local church instead of going all the way to my parish.
• I participate in the ministry of my local church
• I was in the women's choir at St Mark's however that was cut, I have yet to find a new ministerial home.
• I engage in some form of ministry or service to the poor and needy in my world
• While I have not found a new ministerial home at St Mark's, I have found a place where my skills are useful.  I volunteer at the STAR Center (Special Technology Access Resource), I run the computer lab as well as the Facebook page.  I enjoy giving my time, I enjoy the people who use the lab, I love the love that I feel here.
• I participate in a worship service in a local church
• As often as I can, I would like to say I go weekly, possibly with some during the week, however that is not something I can afford.  This is another thing I hope will improve once I have a job.
• I practice "sabbath" as a period set aside for rest and renewal
• I try to do as little projects on Sunday as possible.  It is not a day for laundry, or whitewashing the fence (which would not work anyway).
• I receive spiritual direction from a spiritual guide or mentor
• I have a few people I use for this, and I talk with at least one of them every month.
• I participate in a small group where I can share, seek guidance, and be held accountable for growth
• I have friends that I see at least one of them a week, we only get together as a group once a month or so.
• I enjoy social interaction (fellowship and celebration) with brother and sisters in Christ
• Much less than I would like.  This is another point where I hope having a job would change and increase my ability to afford to go to other or bring others to me.
• I engage in a personal care practice that build my physical, mental, and/or emotional life
• I do yoga as part of my morning routine, I see a therapist every other week, but how I could do more.  I could join a gym and get more of a workout, I could do some much.  I am stuck for the moment, but I will not let it stay that way.

Future

This point is hard to even consider.  It is dependent on getting a job, or not.

I see myself being led to Anamchara.  I spent much of my life believing that I was called to be a nun, however thought it was not something I could be as I was protestant.  Nowadays what is keeping me from joining is my lack of funds which is based on my lack of traditional job.

I see myself having a family before much longer.  Once I have a job and have established myself in it I shall be looking to having a child.  Possibly adopting, possibly by donor, I feel that I am to have a child, I do not feel required to have a partner in the process.

While I am putting it last it is something I feel is very important, I feel I am to live on my own.  By on my own I mean out of my parents basement.  It is not so much that I feel I need to live elsewhere as I feel they need to be able to live with each other and not have their children constantly around.  They have never lived on their own, there was always a someone else living with them, they need and deserve time with each other.

Spiritual Heritage

I come from a mixed and wandering spiritual heritage. 

• Mom was raised Pentecostal
• Dad was raised Lutheran
• God-mother is a cradle Catholic
• I was raised Presbyterian
• In high school went Lutheran for awhile
• In college I was victim blamed and shunned by my Presbyterian church elders
• I wandered Catholic and Lutheran churches for a time
• While I wandered the family wandered Evangelical churches
• For a time I shared the families home church
• Then a friend invited me to try an Episcopalian service

Strengths that come from my background

• Know the differences in denominations
• Know where I stand
• Know my bible
• Know my service style
• Know my servant skills

Weakness that come from my background

• Lack of stable history

Memory

My earliest church based memory is singing in the children's choir at Easter.  I was backstage at the Seattle Opera House.  I was waiting in line, sorted by height.  I could hear the service going on, but not make out what was being said.  This memory is as clear as if it happened yesterday.  I remember being proud of being in the choir.

My next memory was of church was a Billy Graham service.  We were in the Kingdome.  I remember nothing of the service.  I remember how I felt after the service.  After the service the family went down to the field, we all felt called to recommit ourselves.

People Influences

Retired Rear Admiral Roberta Hazard is my earliest and longest standing relationship with someone that influenced my religion.  She knew me from the day of my birth until a move she made where the USPS did not forward our cards to her.  She was a good Naval Officer, and good woman, and a good Catholic.  She studied history and education, more history, then joined the war college, and took all that into the military.  I remember her constantly being a sweet and kind woman.  She sent me a prayer that I keep on my wall, it has been on my wall everywhere I have lived since.  Mostly her influence has not been a traditional leading, but just being that kind woman.
Her life has also taught me that just because you are great at one thing does not mean you cannot do something else (or 2, or 3) as well, in her case history, education, the military, and religion.  This also led me to find Dr Joseph Warren an inspiration, but that is a thing for another time.

A much more recent person of influence is Sharon Blackford.  Again she is a great person in and of herself, and also a good Christian, in her case Episcopalian.  She was my friend for a long while before she mentioned her being religious.  She found out that while I loved the people at my parents church the service was not for me.  I had tried so hard to fit in the service, I joined a choir, I even did a dance of joy during service, but in the case of the former I felt like I was an outcast for asking for sheet music, in the case of the latter I did it hoping I could feel what others did when they do, I cried when I got home because I felt nothing but tired from the experience.  Sherry invited me to come to her church.  Even after moving far away she has walked with me as I have gone on this journey, from joining the church, to Confirmation, to looking at joining an Order.
While we are not related I have called her sister, both spiritually and as someone who I would have loved to actually have been my sister.

Defining Moments

None of my early memories were defining in a religious way for me.  I remember being in choir, I remember friends, I remember being in musicals, I remember VBS in the park, I remember weekend trips, and I remember work weeks during the summer.  None of those defined me, they were all just expected of someone who went to University Presbyterian Church.

Or at least they were overshadowed by how I was treated when as a 19 year old I told the head of the college department I had been raped.  As I had been a bit wild there was victim blaming and slut shaming.  I am not sure I will ever get over that.

I left the Presbyterian faith and wondered.  I tried pagan, I tried Lutheran, I tried Catholic.  I found a family at First African Methodist Episcopal, but not quite the church home I needed.

At FAME I tried hard to fit better.  Once the music made me feel like dancing, so I did.  Unfortunately this was taken as me being full of the spirit, when really I was just feeling the beat (it was a great beat).

When my friend invited me to come to an Episcopal church I started doing research and was excited that it was Catholic service (which I love) with an allowance for those of us left of left.  Then I found out that I could join a religious order, which had been that dirty wish I had had since I was very little.  That plus Pentecost service had me in love.

Listening for the goodness ~ Pelagius

When I first read this chapter I felt a deep connection with what Pelagius said.

I have Aspergers, and as is not uncommon amongst us, I feel a deep connection to animals.  A deeper connection than I do with other humans.  I see God in everything, especially in the gift of animals, in nature, these are precious in part because God is in them.

As I have reread I have felt pain for Pelgius, he loved God, he loved his neighbor be they human, flora, or fauna, he thought women should be allowed to read the scriptures, he appears to have been a good Christian on most if not all sides (I have not researched him separate from this reading, so cannot respond if their are other sides to which he is less than a good Christian).  And yet parts of the church sided against him and his movement.

Doing Gods work is never easy, and Pelagius saw that from his own church.

Develope those under me

I have no one under me, I try to make people who could be considered under me feel equal to me.

There will be times when I have to be in charge, now is a good time to look at how I will help those under me become better, how I could keep control without being a dictator, and how I can lead to a better tomorrow.

Correction

I had thought my dad was raised Lutheran.  It turns out he was raised Lutheran until 10, then joined the Methodist church.

Lists

So many list, lists of this and lists of that.
I make lists, too many to keep track of ... here are a few

List for things needed when moving out of parents basement

• have trashcans for bedroom, need 3 for bathroom and 3 for kitchen (trash, recycle, yardwaste)
• have one laundry basket that can be a two sorter, need a 3 sorter as well (whites, bedding, delicates, heavies, other)
• green bookshelve needs 2 new shelves
• need more shelving and storage

List of people to invite to service

• Elder
• Bernice and Bob
• Pst Anderson
• Chancel
• Half sister
• Half Brother
• Seriously half sister
• Squares
• Lytles
• Betty O
• I really mean it, half sister
• call invite
• letter invite
• try to see in person invite
• Julie
• AKA
1. FAME
2. Gamers
3. Music Dorks
4. Dancer Dorks
5. Former Womens choir members

List of things to look into

• Finding new choir
• Victorian skirt patterns
• How much to rent for service
• How much to get Erik to play, in some form

Funeral notes

• Dune - "Ella taught me ___"
• Firefly - Rocket with notes

Service notes

• Need green outfit
• Figure out wording for invites

Other random notes

• Can volunteer M-Th evenings, however keep F, Sat, and Sun open for personal and one time volunteer events
• Try making a list of all sins, then marking own, to help become a better person

I make lists, too many to keep track of ... imagine the rest

Is there anything you can’t let go of but you know you should?

Time for another random question and answer, get to know me.

I have been able to let go of most everything.  I have forgiven people who have not asked forgiveness.  The only anger and pain I cling to is how the church I grew up in treated me after I was raped.

For all I know they now have group therapy for rape victims, however with me they did everything wrong.  I was suddenly not allowed to be around children, be in any choirs, all I was welcome to do was give them money.  I tried to stick with it, I kept going to services, and I kept feeling less and less connected as those around me built walls.  They were confused why someone so involved would suddenly disconnect, they thought I had done something.  I felt utterly abandoned

After six months I realized they were not going to change for the better, things would only get worse if I stayed.  So I left.  I left my friends of over a decade.  Once I did leave I almost immediately found new places I felt at home, places that let me be me, places that would welcome me in my broken state.  I found new friends, people that made me feel whole.

Defining Moments

None of my early memories were defining in a religious way for me.  I remember being in choir, I remember friends, I remember being in musicals, I remember VBS in the park, I remember weekend trips, and I remember work weeks during the summer.  None of those defined me, they were all just expected of someone who went to University Presbyterian Church.

Or at least they were overshadowed by how I was treated when as a 19 year old I told the head of the college department I had been raped.  As I had been a bit wild there was victim blaming and slut shaming.  I am not sure I will ever get over that.

I left the Presbyterian faith and wondered.  I tried pagan, I tried Lutheran, I tried Catholic.  I found a family at First African Methodist Episcopal, but not quite the church home I needed.

At FAME I tried hard to fit better.  Once the music made me feel like dancing, so I did.  Unfortunately this was taken as me being full of the spirit, when really I was just feeling the beat (it was a great beat).

When my friend invited me to come to an Episcopal church I started doing research and was excited that it was Catholic service (which I love) with an allowance for those of us left of left.  Then I found out that I could join a religious order, which had been that dirty wish I had had since I was very little.  That plus Pentecost service had me in love.

People Influences

Retired Rear Admiral Roberta Hazard is my earliest and longest standing relationship with someone that influenced my religion.  She knew me from the day of my birth until a move she made where the USPS did not forward our cards to her.  She was a good Naval Officer, and good woman, and a good Catholic.  She studied history and education, more history, then joined the war college, and took all that into the military.  I remember her constantly being a sweet and kind woman.  She sent me a prayer that I keep on my wall, it has been on my wall everywhere I have lived since.  Mostly her influence has not been a traditional leading, but just being that kind woman.
Her life has also taught me that just because you are great at one thing does not mean you cannot do something else (or 2, or 3) as well, in her case history, education, the military, and religion.  This also led me to find Dr Joseph Warren an inspiration, but that is a thing for another time.

A much more recent person of influence is Sharon Blackford.  Again she is a great person in and of herself, and also a good Christian, in her case Episcopalian.  She was my friend for a long while before she mentioned her being religious.  She found out that while I loved the people at my parents church the service was not for me.  I had tried so hard to fit in the service, I joined a choir, I even did a dance of joy during service, but in the case of the former I felt like I was an outcast for asking for sheet music, in the case of the latter I did it hoping I could feel what others did when they do, I cried when I got home because I felt nothing but tired from the experience.  Sherry invited me to come to her church.  Even after moving far away she has walked with me as I have gone on this journey, from joining the church, to Confirmation, to looking at joining an Order.
While we are not related I have called her sister, both spiritually and as someone who I would have loved to actually have been my sister.

Memory

My earliest church based memory is singing in the children's choir at Easter.  I was backstage at the Seattle Opera House.  I was waiting in line, sorted by height.  I could hear the service going on, but not make out what was being said.  This memory is as clear as if it happened yesterday.  I remember being proud of being in the choir.

My next memory was of church was a Billy Graham service.  We were in the Kingdome.  I remember nothing of the service.  I remember how I felt after the service.  After the service the family went down to the field, we all felt called to recommit ourselves.

Compline

I am sad.  The code for Anamchara Compline failed.  I had been so excited to join in.

I did the Celtic Compline for today on my own (there is no notes on my copy, so it was just spoken not sung), so I did not miss out completely.

Spiritual Heritage

I come from a mixed and wandering spiritual heritage. 

• Mom was raised Pentecostal
• Dad was raised Lutheran
• God-mother is a cradle Catholic
• I was raised Presbyterian
• In high school went Lutheran for awhile
• In college I was victim blamed and shunned by my Presbyterian church elders
• I wandered Catholic and Lutheran churches for a time
• While I wandered the family wandered Evangelical churches
• For a time I shared the families home church
• Then a friend invited me to try an Episcopalian service

Strengths that come from my background

• Know the differences in denominations
• Know where I stand
• Know my bible
• Know my service style
• Know my servant skills

Weakness that come from my background

• Lack of stable history

Love

Today is not for posting about my religious walk. Today is not a day to focus on the self.

Today is a day to show love. Today people celebrating liberte fraternite egalite lost their lives. Today a human filled with hate stole a precious gift.

Today I want to share love with everyone.

Specifically I want to share love with you as you read this.  Yes you, maybe we have not met, maybe we have been friends for ages.  None of that matters.  You are here and you are loved by me.

Remember
If you are reading this that means you are awesome enough for me to care about. This means you should love you. You are you and that should make you smile. If someone else thinks you need to change you, remember that you are loved because of you, not in spite of you.

Smile
Love yourself
Love others
Share joy
Most important share love

Compline

I am excited to a silly level at the idea of watching Anamchara Compline this Sunday night.  It is being shown online.  I have gone to Compline at St Mark's a few times, this will be my first Compline at another site (site, hahaha).

I will be playing it in the living room of the house, so there will be room for others to join, if you want to come up to Edmonds.

Future

This point is hard to even consider.  It is dependent on getting a job, or not.

I see myself being led to Anamchara.  I spent much of my life believing that I was called to be a nun, however thought it was not something I could be as I was protestant.  Nowadays what is keeping me from joining is my lack of funds which is based on my lack of traditional job.

I see myself having a family before much longer.  Once I have a job and have established myself in it I shall be looking to having a child.  Possibly adopting, possibly by donor, I feel that I am to have a child, I do not feel required to have a partner in the process.

While I am putting it last it is something I feel is very important, I feel I am to live on my own.  By on my own I mean out of my parents basement.  It is not so much that I feel I need to live elsewhere as I feel they need to be able to live with each other and not have their children constantly around.  They have never lived on their own, there was always a someone else living with them, they need and deserve time with each other.

What is brief

I sent an email asking for a definition of brief.  Was three pages still brief, or is seven the max.  I was told the term brief was meant to imply I did not have to write a book, but otherwise was welcome to send more if that is what I felt to do.

This does make things easier.  I was trying to figure out how much of a page per thought I could have, now I can write as much or as little as I feel called to write.

More writing to come :)

Time to answer a random question, because I am done with my other work for the day

Would you take a shot if the chance of failure and success is 50-50?

For major things I would try, for minor things I would hide and not try. The tiny things I freak out over, leaving no time for me to panick over the bigger things.

Checklist

In this process to write a spiritual autobiography I have looked at questions to help me organize thoughts.  I found a Spiritual Formation Assessment that gave a checklist, I went over the list, and as it suggested it might I learned something about myself, and show me where I could improve.  I certainly saw where I could improve, while I checked the boxes I saw myself not answering the question but describing my answer.

Here goes

• I practice some form of personal prayer
• Every morning, as part of a routine
• I pray with other Christians
• I rarely spend time in prayer with others outside of services
• I read my Bible devotionally
• As part of my morning routine (BCP)
• I read spiritual writings
• While busing.  If I am busing I am probably reading.  When I bus is currently random, I am hoping that getting a normal job will increase my reading times.
• I study the Scriptures
• As part of my morning routine (BCP) 
• I spend time by myself in quiet solitude or silence
• I spend a short time as part of my daily routine, I am trying to add more silence and music to my life.
• I fast or engage in other deliberate acts to simplify my life from over-dependence on material things]
• I cut something for a short time every week, but I could do more I just am not taking that step
• I keep a personal journal of my thoughts, feelings, and prayers
• I make notes, they are random and not all in one place.  I am hoping this space will once again be where I post such things, and I hope other will keep me accountable
• I contribute from my financial resources through
• Tithing and offerings as I can, when I can.  Money is so tight I commonly go to a local church instead of going all the way to my parish.
• I participate in the ministry of my local church
• I was in the women's choir at St Mark's however that was cut, I have yet to find a new ministerial home.
• I engage in some form of ministry or service to the poor and needy in my world
• While I have not found a new ministerial home at St Mark's, I have found a place where my skills are useful.  I volunteer at the STAR Center (Special Technology Access Resource), I run the computer lab as well as the Facebook page.  I enjoy giving my time, I enjoy the people who use the lab, I love the love that I feel here.
• I participate in a worship service in a local church
• As often as I can, I would like to say I go weekly, possibly with some during the week, however that is not something I can afford.  This is another thing I hope will improve once I have a job.
• I practice "sabbath" as a period set aside for rest and renewal
• I try to do as little projects on Sunday as possible.  It is not a day for laundry, or whitewashing the fence (which would not work anyway).
• I receive spiritual direction from a spiritual guide or mentor
• I have a few people I use for this, and I talk with at least one of them every month.
• I participate in a small group where I can share, seek guidance, and be held accountable for growth
• I have friends that I see at least one of them a week, we only get together as a group once a month or so.
• I enjoy social interaction (fellowship and celebration) with brother and sisters in Christ
• Much less than I would like.  This is another point where I hope having a job would change and increase my ability to afford to go to other or bring others to me.
• I engage in a personal care practice that build my physical, mental, and/or emotional life
• I do yoga as part of my morning routine, I see a therapist every other week, but how I could do more.  I could join a gym and get more of a workout, I could do some much.  I am stuck for the moment, but I will not let it stay that way.

I am not being weird, I promise

I am being weird, and my post seem to be a bit off my usual.  Because of my unemployed nature I have moved from being in the application process of joining the Anamchara Fellowship as a nun, to applying to join as a Companion.  I am making my notes on what to write in the application process here for two main reason, it allows me to have my notes on different pages (posts), and to help keep honest/give me accountability.

I welcome notes and question, whether they be via comments on a post or an email.

Practices

I have never been good with self discipline, self control, and self accountability.  I am however good at making friends that are willing to check on me.

This is true of everything
Give me a bag of broccolli, I will eat it all
Give me music and I will work out until I pass out from pain
Give me books, I will read, ignoring all physical needs

I always wish I were capable of more

My friends keep me right, keep me from going too far, at least as much as they can

Influences

I grew up Presbyterian

My mom was raised Pentecostal

My dad was raised Lutheran

My God Mother, Roberta Hazard, was Catholic

I touched a toe in each

When I was in high school I visited a Lutheran church, loved the service and its weekly communion

When I was treated poorly by my childhood church I spent most of my time at Lutheran services

As an adult a dear friend invited me to go to Saint Mark's Cathedral, it was the feast of the Pentecost. By the end of the service I knew I was home.

People whose faith influenced me, feels almost like a mathematical equation. Sharon Blackford a cradle Episcopalian and Admiral Roberta Hazard a strong Catholic. So my being a Catholic leaning Episcopalian is rather expected.  My favourite authors also mirror this situation, The greatest Catholic writer and the greatest protestant writer;  JRR Tolkien and CS Lewis.

Evolution

The evolution of my faith was not a slow or gradual one.  I was on one track, and was forced off it by the church I grew up in.

I had been wild in my youth, I never left the church, I was just wild and a troublemaker.  But was a leader and teacher, on my way to living a life as leader in a church.

Then I was raped.  I told my boyfriend, who told the leaders of the college program, who told the leaders of the children's programs.  Victim blaming broke me.  I lost many friends, I lost my plan in life, I lost my goal, I lost my boyfriend, I lost school, I even lost faith in humanity, but never lost my faith in God.

I was too broken to keep going as I had been.

One friend helped me make new friends, I quickly rebuilt some aspects of me, but what I saw as who I would be was not to be regained.

I left churches for awhile, when I went back it was to Lutheran churches, then an African Methodist Episcopal, then I game to where I belong.